From Personal Stories to Powerful Shows: A Conversation with Brenda Adelman

Imagine a world where your personal anecdotes and experiences are not just stories, but powerful performances capable of impacting and transforming lives. That's the world Brenda Adelman, a renowned acting coach, and I, your host, reside in. In a riveting conversation, Brenda shares her unique method of transforming talks into performances that resonate. We unveil how to break stories down into their simplest form, creating an engaging performance that echoes not only on stage but in business. Brenda also reveals how she leverages social media and video platforms to ensure stories reach the right ears.

In an emotional journey, we discuss the trials one faces when sharing personal stories and the healing that follows. Brenda recounts her experience of turning her personal story into a critically acclaimed one-person show, underscoring the importance and impact of sharing one's truth. We explore the ripple effect these stories can have, sparking significant change in the world. Along the way, I share my three-step forgiveness process to help others embrace their stories without fearing judgement. This discussion promises to inspire, challenge, and empower you to elevate your story into a compelling performance.

Chapters

• 0:02 Turning Talk Into Performance
• 11:00 Healing Through Storytelling and Authenticity
• 24:48 The Importance of Sharing Your Story

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:02

Hello and welcome back to the Overcome Yourself podcast. I am so excited to be here with you today with one of my favorite people on this earth, I think Brenda friggin Adelman. Thank you for your call. I love that introduction.

Speaker 2: 0:22

Oh, my God, you are such a blessing in my life.

Speaker 1: 0:25

Who are you? Are Brenda, like you? Our topic for today is going to be turning your talk into a performance and like, really, brenda, you have done amazing things with me. Like I never, ever thought, you know, I like the idea of like an open stage and I was like, oh, I wonder, but I never thought that I would have something to say, really, you know, and so, working with you since, I guess since last year, I've been on stage three times in your shows, yeah, and you know, and so you like, not only have you helped me get on stage, you helped me put together my story. Your method is just absolutely mind blowing. It just breaks your you know, putting together your story into just its simplest form and you make magic freaking happen, man. That's why you got to be Brenda friggin Adelman.

Speaker 2: 1:21

I am Brenda friggin Adelman. Thank you, thank you so much. I do see magic happen. I see it all the time and it is about, it's simple, my process, but it's also super creative, like using every little part of who you are, your talent, your presence, your story. I love it. I love, I love getting to see my clients just come alive.

Speaker 2: 1:49

And that's why I also create platforms for my clients, because I remember when I started sharing my story way too long ago to tell everybody I didn't have a platform. You know, it was before. Everything was virtual way before that and it was like trying to find a stage where I could put my story up and actually take a temperature with the audience was hard. And then, once I did get on stage, like outside of a class, I remember how terrifying it was to actually do the tell my story at the time in the format of a one person show in front of all these strangers.

Speaker 2: 2:30

And a couple of years ago, pre pandemic, I started not only teaching writing, performing classes, but I started doing a showcase and I noticed that my clients were terrified to the point where they really were like I don't know if I could show up. But then, when they did and they did. They were so proud of themselves and their presentation just exponentially, their talent, their presence, everything grew because they had that platform. And so I knew that whether they continued working with me or not, they already grew way more than if they just stayed in a class, because we can hide in class and stuff like that. And so now I do that virtually for my clients, you know so yes, yes, I know, I know.

Speaker 1: 3:17

Yeah, what was that like? Do you remember the?

Speaker 2: 3:19

first time, because I do remember working with you on your story and I was just oh, that story is pretty incredible. I know you've said it, I don't know if you've said it publicly. You know about how you know. We came to that first meeting and you're like no, I don't have anything, yeah. And then I was and you had crumpled up what you had written, because that's how so many of us are. It's like what do I have to say? And then I heard I was like nope, I want to hear it.

Speaker 2: 3:45

Yeah, and I couldn't believe it, Like immediately, first of all, immediately I had. So I had such a connection with you that I didn't have, and then I had so much respect, kind of an awe for you to be so young and to have gone through so much, so much loss, so many challenges and to have overcome it the way you did.

Speaker 2: 4:11

And that was just from you telling me like less than five minutes, right, I was like that's it Now we just have to develop it you know, and make it really presentational, and that's why the topic today is like you want your presentation to match the power of your story and that I'm really excited about that.

Speaker 1: 4:31

Yes, and it opens up. It opens up everything, because when working with you learning to tell my story, learning the pieces, learning how to break apart the pieces and be like, okay, let me focus in on this it's helped me in everything else in my business when I'm putting together presentations, master classes, when I'm doing tutorials, when we're doing these podcast episodes, and so everything that you do leads back to like the business side. So, as a business owner, I encourage other business owners to go get your acting coach.

Speaker 2: 5:09

Exactly.

Speaker 1: 5:10

Yes, yes, a lot of what we do, our jobs, are being on social media and getting out in front of people and letting them know, this is how I can help you, and that's what you've helped me, to really step into that and step into the stage that is social media, because social media is its own stage right.

Speaker 2: 5:32

Absolutely, and it's whether you're writing your story but still writing it for an impact including stories or if it's presenting and video. Of course, everyone and I teach video presentation because the algorithms, everything works for you if you do video and it's just another layer of people feeling like they know you and they're being in the room with you, so that you don't have to sell so hard because they already know who you are. In your videos you're talking about what you do, so it's like having. It's just like it's a win-win for everybody really if you can learn these skills. And I know people are terrified. That's why I teach this, because years ago, because I came from an acting background, I already had like years of training, I'm sure tens of thousands of dollars worth of acting classes because there was scene study. Then there was how do you act for the camera, how do you act for commercials, how do you act for film? Believe it or not, it's all different. And so I would go to business meetings as a business owner small business owner and I would see my fellow coaches just be like terrified of video and really say that they weren't good and some of them were drinking or they were doing 30 takes to loosen up. And yet they were also saying it wasn't getting any better. They were just like I gotta get it out there. And so it was like you just need the skills and as someone with an acting background, I can give you the skills and that's how that was born, because I see these brilliant people that are experts and then they don't appear like experts because they have some coaches like just go live, just go live. You have no skills. It's like you know what, if you had nothing at stake, that'd be fine. But if you have your business at stake and making money and staying in business and growing your business, get the skills. So that's why and skills are beyond this is where the camera is set up. You have your tripod, you have your lighting. You should have that already.

Speaker 2: 7:33

But I talked about presentation because that's what my forte is, because I've been on. I've done my 10,000 hours on stages, I've done my probably 10,000 hours on doing interviews and things like that. Like I know what works because as an actor my whole life. I also know I lean in, I look at what's happening for the other person and there are stages in telling your story. So at first you might be just like. This is what my story is. You just wanna get it out there. But then you wanna graduate to the next stage, which is okay. Where are the nuances? What should I share? And then, of course, you wanna have variety in presentation, because if you don't have variety, you can have this incredible thing you wanna say, but people tune out because everything has the same weight.

Speaker 1: 8:19

Yes, and you know one of the things I teach is having a queen bee role. I learned that from someone else, but your queen bee role is either gonna be video or audio or written content and no matter which way you decide to make content, you can create content from that content in all the other forms. And so, having the skills to record a video and do it in a way where you can do it, in a way where you can also pull the audio to create a podcast, so like this episode, and you always do that, yes, yes, but it's gotta be good, right, so that people will listen to it.

Speaker 2: 8:58

So yeah, because you know that's interesting, because yesterday inside Soul Story Launch, which is my inner circle, one of my clients, we have this thing where you can post a video inside and I'll look at it and give feedback. And she couldn't get her video. It was from an open mic. She couldn't get her video up, so she just listened to it and the notes were different with just listening to it, because there's so much when you're doing video that even if you are a little bit not using a lot of variety, if you're using a gesture you know it's leaning you'll capture your audience. However, if the picture's not there and it's still the same pacing, then people will leave.

Speaker 1: 9:49

So that's really important, yes, yes, and you know it's. I love how you, how you use those examples as you're talking, because those are the kinds of things that you really help me work on, because really we know that stories sell Right, and so a lot of marketers tell us stories sell, stories sell Right, but then how do we convey that story? Like we have a basic structure, right, but then how do we make it a good story? How do we make it captivating? How do we write the words in a way that people are going to be like I need to keep reading this. And or how do I, you know, tell a video, get do videos in a way that people want to watch them, you know, and so your methods are just, are just so incredible.

Speaker 1: 10:32

And the fact that your soul let's go back to the Soul Story Lounge. I'm a member of your Soul Story Lounge. I love it. We talk about it on other podcasts because it's just, it's just absolutely amazing and you give speakers, you give authors, you give presenters, coaches, the opportunity to learn all these things. So tell me a little bit more about the Soul Story Lounge. I mean, the challenges that you do in there are just absolutely freaking insane, like they're so valuable. Tell me more I just well.

Speaker 2: 11:00

Soul Story Lounge is my inner circle. I had it on my heart to create something where I had a community of people who had similar values to me. Values that are important are integrity, a sense of wanting to serve, to help people make a bigger impact in the world, and also healing our stories Very important for me that we heal from our stories. So I am lucky enough less than enough to attract people who have lived through so much stuff that I often say it does break my heart when I hear it. And then, as they apply my Soul Story Method, my heart gets broken open because I literally, as an empath, can feel the healing. And so I know because we also tap into, you know, the messaging that I know that as they're tapping into the message their message, not my message and they're sharing it, that that healing is reverberating, that it is, there's a ripple effect. And so what Soul Story Lounge is? It's a combination of learning this, the storytelling and the video techniques and the healing techniques, so that you can go out there and make the biggest impact, which, for I would say, like I would say, 60% in there are entrepreneurs, so they're building their business. So, like I think you know, paula had a really successful launch. I, you know, I think you might be working with her too, but I but it was like she learned how to do the video and how, to, you know, sell on video and had a really successful launch. It's like, so we're celebrating that.

Speaker 2: 12:40

And then also the healing part of it. It's like being real, like what I love about it too. It's like how authentic people are. It's like we live in a hard world. There are things happening all the time, so it's like looking at the world but not getting beaten down by it, like saying, yeah, that's hard, not being a victim to it. But also the other side of it is that like, because I have a three step forgiveness process right, I have a master's in spiritual psychology, I have a hero forgiveness award In my three step process. You actually have to embrace the victim, but you do it consciously, so that I have exercises so that it doesn't leak out in other areas and for me, specifically, because I'm teaching how to tell your story, it doesn't leak out when you're telling your story, so that nobody's ever worried about you. Even if you're going through something difficult, you're sharing something difficult, and I actually talked about this on the mastermind yesterday. I've had times where so I have.

Speaker 2: 13:36

I read into a bio. You know, I've an award, I'm a critically acclaimed, I'm an award-winning actress, critically acclaimed one person show that I performed all over the world for over 12,000 people. And I had a performance a couple of years ago I think it was 2019, where I had a huge, huge breakthrough on stage. I had a huge breakthrough around my dad in person, then on stage, but it was almost like a breakdown on stage because of the healing in person, but I was able to then come off stage and nurture myself and love myself and everything like that. So, and it was one of the best performances I had, let me just say briefly so, my story being that my father, who I adored, shot and killed my mother in 1995 and married her sister, my aunt, and so it was a big story and I started sharing that story first, first on the pages of my journal. That started my healing.

Speaker 2: 14:37

Then I was inwardly guided to present it in an acting class that I was in terrified, filled with shame, hadn't done any of my inner work. Yet Instead of getting judgment, which I thought I would, I got a standing ovation, a director who wanted to work with me at Snowballed. I got opportunities to perform, but then I would perform and people would laugh, people would cry and I'd be absolutely miserable. So at the time off, got a master's degree in spiritual psychology, decided, came to not why did this happen, but how do I thrive now that this happened, rewrote the ending of my show, took my dad to court for wrongful death when he got out of prison, and so to me, I know the trials and tribulations of telling our very personal story. So that's another. You know, pepiva, I have is.

Speaker 2: 15:22

You know, there's this buzz thing tell your vulnerable story, tell your vulnerable story, but I know how that can freaking hurt you if you haven't done the inner work. So that's why my process is very much also overdue. It's a lot overcoming. You know, overcoming yourself is the second part of my process is overcoming your emotions, working with them so that you can actually be so powerful on stage but you're not feeling bad afterwards.

Speaker 1: 15:48

Yes, one of the things I talk about in my book is you know, part of Bernadine Brown said part of living a wholehearted life is recognizing shame and being able to release it. Right, I like to say shame can't survive in oxygen, so when we keep these things inside, they're eating away. Shame is just in there, it's taking over all the thoughts. It makes us feel things in our body. We get that shame in our stomach and then we can't feel our hands and there's this whole thing. And so having someone to guide us through that process and being able to talk about those things, that is releasing the pressure about when you're able to talk about it, because other people understand like you are not the only person. It's mathematically impossible for you to be the only person that's going through something.

Speaker 2: 16:41

Right, and the thing is in the Soul Story Lounge is everybody is at a place of taking radical responsibility for their lives, but not, you know, not doing a spiritual bypass. Right, exactly, it's just being able to be real and then say how can you turn this into art or power, you know, or a coaching program that can help people? You know, how can I use what I learned? And you don't always have to be on the other side of it. The very first time I told my story on stage in a one person show was will I ever? The ending was will I ever be able to love and trust again?

Speaker 2: 17:13

I didn't know if I could, but it's like my teaching helps people write the healing into their lives by presenting and that's another misconception people have is like they have to be on the other side of it if they're gonna speak. No, you don't, but you do wanna be conscious, you wanna have your witness there so that you can play. Play in like you can see the victim, you can see the anger, but you are not. That you know.

Speaker 1: 17:40

Yes, yes, that's so important and another theme from my book that you're touching on, I love you know we're on similar wavelengths because it's just foundational stuff is spotting that strength and what you used to think was your weakness right, because people used to tell me you're too emotional on a call. And it's not that it was too emotional, it's that I was using my emotions the wrong way. I didn't know how to direct them, you know.

Speaker 2: 18:03

That's interesting.

Speaker 1: 18:04

Right, because my power comes from those emotions and so, instead of sadness, if I was sadness, everybody was gonna be sad around me, because I have like that aura where people are very connected. I guess you know like you talk about being like a thermostat in a room where you set the temperature and learning to direct that and be excited, like changing the thoughts, asking yourself different questions, and it's all part of the process and then telling my story. That just helped me reinforce. These are my strengths, you know.

Speaker 1: 18:37

Another one of my weaknesses when I was little is I talk too much, and that's one of the things I talk about in my book. It's one of my strengths is that I was talking about the wrong things, you know, and after all the things that we've gone through, we learned to talk about the right things. So we learned to talk about the ideas, the things that are gonna move us forward, about helping other people heal, and so now I make my money from talking. So it wasn't that it was my weakness, it was just that I was not using it correctly. And you're helping me embrace that, you know, and thank you. I love you so much for that.

Speaker 2: 19:08

That's so awesome and I do feel like there's also, like you talked about, shame, and I feel like there's so much energy locked inside our secrets and so if we can just bring them out and you don't have to share everything publicly, but if you could at least bring them out to yourself. I remember having so much compassion when I finally put my thoughts onto the pages of my journal just a couple of years after my mom died, and I was like, oh my God, that's what I lived through. And I felt so much compassion for myself, because when we try to keep it in our head, it's you know, it's just so hard or we're trying to make it okay when there's this seething, anger or grief underneath.

Speaker 2: 19:48

So it is really wonderful to be able to come to a place where you know you have that witness there and you're like, okay, that was something that well also you know what You're talking about patterns that you know you thought were not serving you, that are like great, now right, but there's also there are things that we think serve us and they do until a certain time right.

Speaker 2: 20:14

So I was. I grew up in such a crazy household that I could really compartmentalize and I could be like, okay, well, that's all right, because this is okay over here. And at some point it was like also what I would call a spiritual bypass, making something okay that really isn't okay. And so at some point I learned and it was after my mother was killed that you know, I don't have to make everything okay. That and that's part of my process, like it's okay to be upset about certain things. Just, you don't wanna stay in that, you wanna have the exercises which I have tools like for that as well. You want to move through it so it doesn't stay in. You all that locked up energy, you know.

Speaker 1: 20:59

Yes, yes, no, that's so important. You know, that's where learning to practice gratitude for me came from, when I lost my baby, and there's like, what do you hold on to? You know, when you're in that moment and you just don't know, you're like this is what I was grasping and it's gone. So like this is the end, and you know. And then you make a choice, and then that's where, yeah, those new patterns have to emerge. It's habits Like those are the big themes of my book habits gratitude and seeing. How did that happen?

Speaker 2: 21:26

for you, though. How did you go from that loss, like, did it take a while or did it somehow come in energetically? Did someone share with you Like, how did you shift?

Speaker 1: 21:37

Um, a lot of quiet time. I remember being alone a lot in that house and deciding, deciding like are you going to die or are you going to live? Like it was really like I had to ask myself in that moment like, okay, is this the end for you?

Speaker 2: 22:00

Yeah, that gives me chills. Actually, that would be a really good thing to put into one of your talks, because I think a lot of people come late to that, that moment where it's like, is this it? You know, I remember for me wanting to take my life and then I was like, but my mother wouldn't want that, and that was the thing that helped me. You know, I think that's really important.

Speaker 1: 22:24

you were just saying All right, something I've never talked about. I went through that as well, and I was really young, and I remember. You know, yes, family like this would hurt the people like these people. They would be hurt by this, and one of the things that I remember thinking that I was so young is like if you died and you can never come like, you can never go to like a theme park ever again. That's how young I was, though, when I was thinking about that.

Speaker 1: 22:56

So, that is why now going back like I'm getting tears in my going, to here first. It's such a big deal for me is because that's one of the things that really, when I was little, it's so, it's so silly, but that's how little I was, you know.

Speaker 2: 23:12

But also what the audience doesn't know is you lost your mom really young too.

Speaker 1: 23:16

Yes, yes, yes, I was one and a half, yeah, and so you know there was a lot of trauma and a lot of turmoil. And you know what, when you tell your story and you really like break it down with your system, and you see, and you're like, well, no wonder I'm fucking sad, or no wonder, no wonder, like no wonder.

Speaker 1: 23:35

I'm not where I thought it was like, because I had to deal with all of this and I'm so proud of myself for being where I am despite all of this shit that happened, you know.

Speaker 2: 23:45

Exactly, and that's the big thing everybody it's like think of. You know, you could say that some of the things we live through are very dramatic, right, very, you know, big losses and stuff. And some people compare and they're like, oh, I didn't have all that happen. But believe it or not, because I have helped over 200 people, there are a lot of people who've had really dramatic things. They just hide or they make it like it's not such a big deal, but it is. But you know, even for people who haven't been through as big things right as big losses, let's say, or as dramatic I talked about this also yesterday in the mastermind it's like you had I have worked with people who are like they just were really lonely, they didn't have someone there for them, like not that anyone mistreated them or anything like that, but in that alone, it's like we really have to honor what we've lived through and why we're still thinking about it, like what is the lesson underneath that you're still there, or what choices do you make?

Speaker 2: 24:48

Because that loneliness lives with you, because that's, you know, that's a human condition, you know. So, yeah, it is wonderful to have compassion for ourselves versus what we do, you know. And then, of course, an important component of the work that I do with the healing is so, if you feel like that and you identify when you were really little and this happened, then as an adult, with everything you know, you become the parent, the mother that you didn't have or the father that, let's say, was abusive. You embody the qualities you would love to have had, versus always searching for what you didn't have, and you apply those to yourself, so that there's so much you know child's work, there's so much like you feel like you don't need anything from anyone else, and that is one thing. That stops people from sharing their stories too is like they're afraid they're exposing this thing. And what if someone says something? And it's like it's okay because you fill yourself up so much that you know you don't owe anything to anybody else.

Speaker 2: 25:50

You're actually telling your story for yourself right first, like I think there's this misunderstanding, like I know people talk about oh, your, you know business. The audience is the hero. You know it's, you're doing it for them. But I actually think it's just like a really good novel, the the greatest kind of books you've ever read. It's because the person is literally just putting down their heart. They're not thinking about the demographic that come can come out after, or you can have a little bit of an idea of it, or your avatar, but if you actually are true to yourself, you are then tapping into something so much bigger. So then your story is everyone's story. You know, I mean, there's different ways to work with this.

Speaker 1: 26:33

Yes, and then you adding those details can be in the editing part and that happens to me with a lot of the content that I write is I write something out and then I'll be like you know what. This is not the right order, but you know you. Then you adjust it, or I. Actually I have this story but I want to relate it to this.

Speaker 2: 26:49

You know, this group or whatever, which is really important too, because if you do it in the wrong order, you will literally shut down your muse. So then you'll sound like every other copywriter out there or every other speaker out there, because you shut down your muse. It's interesting, right, because once you know about how business works, then you might think about who you're talking to. But you can't have that drive you, you know, until the object.

Speaker 1: 27:16

I've noticed that it comes out better, like when I'm writing out. I write something out, let it all come out, and then you reread it and you're like where's my hook? And then you take that hook, you bring it to the top because you got to bring. You know, you want to bring your readers in, but they stay for the story right, because a lot of people are focused on the hook, hook, hook and the hook is super important those first three seconds. You've got to get their attention.

Speaker 1: 27:37

But then how do you keep their attention? How do you get them to click? How do you get them to move emotionally and be like this is the person I want to work with, or this is what I want to do, or whatever you know? Oh my God, this story, I need to watch the rest, I need to read this book. Whatever it is that you know that you're promoting. It's the story. That's what's going to win them over, that's what's going to end. So get stopping them super important, but then keeping them there and getting them into your system, into your flow, into your office, into whatever you know. And that's where you come in, girl, and like the job with entrepreneurs and with other people, with anyone, if you want to develop your one woman story I mean, I know that I'm going to be fleshing out a lot of the work that I do with you to write out a book, because the stories are fantastic.

Speaker 2: 28:23

once they're written out, you can tell them out loud, you can put them in a book, you can make a story in many different ways and I mean I've helped my clients go from like presenting on stage to putting that same story into a chapter in a book and I've done the opposite. Someone has a chapter and I've helped them put it on stage. And then I've had people who, you know, just have written a full length book and now we're putting it on stage, you know, and some people who just have an idea. It's pretty incredible, it's. It's really exciting because I feel like the different ways you share your story or an interview, you'll tell your story if you have five minutes versus you have a 30 minute podcast, and what your, what your intention is, you know, is your intention to heal people.

Speaker 2: 29:07

Like you know, if I'm speaking in a mental health training, I'm going to share, I'm going to go into details about the healing part of my story. If I'm doing a business, you know, interview, I'm going to tell my story, but I'm not going to, I'm probably not going to go deeply into it until the host, unless the host asks me and it's relevant to their audience, things like that. But I'm still going to say it because I know well. First of all, pivotal part of who I am, but it's also my brand story. It's also like I wouldn't be teaching this if my father had not killed my mother, you know, because I wouldn't have gone on the deep healing path that I did, so I wouldn't have learned these tools. But it's once. I learn them. How could I, how could I not? You know anything.

Speaker 1: 29:52

One of the things that I quoted. I was talking about Malcolm Gladwell, that you mentioned the 10,000 hour rule and I was it in blank. I don't remember which book it was, but he meant he talks about how is it only is it? Well, maybe I'm the one who talked about it and I'm quoting him. Like people that go through traumatic situations, they're not the only ones that have confidence. Confidence comes from other things. But the confidence that we derive from those traumatic situations, like the drive, the, the perspective that we get, it's very, it's a special kind and, and, like you, do just such a great job of helping because, like it's tough, it can be really tough to the situations that people bring to you, and you just do such a beautiful, a beautiful job of not only helping people tell their story but making sure that it's not.

Speaker 2: 30:48

It's not a downer, you know that there's a process yes, yes, and that's why I teach that I teach it's very important to me that the final product is not a downer. It can be hard as you're going through it, but it's very important, because what's the point otherwise? We're here to elevate the world. We're here to elevate ourselves. So, therefore, you want to look at what is the message behind it that got you resilience. Because to me, you know, as someone who lived as a victim for very, a very long time after this happened, yeah, and there's so many people on the bounce that could get on the bounce and like, oh, it's so horrible, what happened to you?

Speaker 2: 31:25

The reason not to stay there is because, for me at least, I was disempowered, my life wasn't working. It's not like I had great relationships, I was making a lot of money I was creating. No, if you're a victim, you can't. That. It doesn't work like that, like if you're a victim, you're going to attract other victims. So, while there couldn't be like a relief in sharing your victim story, that's why I teach it's like it's okay to recognize it, but then just get it all out so you can just move on and have a better life, you know.

Speaker 2: 31:52

So my cat is over there being like let me. I'm going to have to put something over the over the over the window. Do you have a cat or no? No, I have a dog.

Speaker 1: 32:05

The cats are like, stare like that.

Speaker 2: 32:08

You know it's just intensity words. Dogs are just like sweet yeah.

Speaker 1: 32:12

No, he will stare me down Like if he wants something you know like I'm ready to go outside, He'll sit there and look at me. Or in the morning he's like I'm ready to go out, and then he'll just sit there and just stare. Yes, I get to stare down as well.

Speaker 2: 32:25

So funny.

Speaker 1: 32:26

Now will you mention that you have a special gift for our listeners?

Speaker 2: 32:31

Yes, so we started with you know how do you turn your talk into a, an unforgettable performance. So I do have something for those of you who well, actually performers will love this too, but it's specifically for entrepreneurs Like how do you turn that talk into a performance? So I have 20 tips for you and I have the link there that we'll have to put in there because I didn't like it.

Speaker 1: 32:56

Yeah, it will get me in the show notes, no worries.

Speaker 2: 32:58

Yeah, so you'll get 20 tips. So that, taken from you know me as an actor and also having taught so many entrepreneurs as well over the years of how you really get that confidence, how you can, you know, courageously take, take chances, so that when you're sharing your story, not only is your story important, but so is your presentation.

Speaker 1: 33:19

Yes, I love it. And then we mentioned the Soul Story lounge. Can you tell us a little bit more about that and how we can get more information on that?

Speaker 2: 33:27

Yes, that is my inner circle, my paid community. I think the best way is to go to the page HTTP. There's no s there, it's the HTTP. So sorry, loungecom, and it's not always open, but if you go to that page and you read it and you're interested, definitely reach out to me. We have monthly masterminds where you'll get Coaching from me in a group. In a group we have, you have pretty much 24 seven access to me and inside our communication channel, we have guest experts. Every month. We've had people teaching how to be fantastic doing selfies. We've had people teaching on how to do reels, how to do short form video, how to do tick tock so many really great things. There's my trainings on how to find your story and how to be confident on video. I have a portal of more stuff. Someone who came in and talked about how he, how he was doing it. I mean there's a lot and a lot more coming. And then we also have social calls in there as well, and there's more.

Speaker 2: 34:40

Oh, and then, of course, quarterly, there's open mics for my clients. So I do all the producing of that and we have graphics and we have you telling your story and here and there I'll throw in little bonus trainings because I want the best from you, so you can get feedback on your writing and your social media, Things like that. And then when I you know you just people in the lounge get access to other things as well. It's really a lovely group. Oh, and you also have you get my book. My father killed my mother and married my aunt Forgiving, unforgivable. I had that in the back office as well and you get to hang out with me because I'm in there as well.

Speaker 1: 35:16

So you get that and I will say Nicole designed the entire site, of the entire site, and I'm going to say, I'm going to say, I'm going to say, nicole designed the entire site to the entire sales page, like it's just, it's really beautiful. Oh, thank you, Thank you, thank you. I'm glad you love it. Yes, it was so much fun. I love working with you. So wonderful. Thank you so much for sharing Social media. How can we follow you on social media?

Speaker 2: 35:42

Brenda Adleman on Facebook. Mostly that's where I'm active, Although you'll see me on other places. Other places, but also I have a free group called Soul Story tribe. Like I just ran a challenge in there until your soul story for impact and income. So when you get into Soul Story tribe, you have direct access to me. That's my free group as well.

Speaker 1: 36:00

Awesome. So all those links will be in the comments. Brenda, I want to thank you again for being here with us today. This has been so wonderful. Highly recommend anything that Brenda puts out. If you can get your hands on free stuff, paid stuff, whatever, it is like buying everything from Brenda. She is absolutely amazing and I would love to see you and thank you so much for being here and taking it absolutely change your life as a presenter. Can.

Speaker 2: 36:29

I take a picture. Yes, of course.

Speaker 1: 36:30

Go for it, thank you. So thank you. Thank you so much for being here. I love working with you, brenda. You are just absolutely amazing and All right. So until next time, guys, thanks for being here. We'll see you soon.